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It’s somehow expected that when we talk about Bushido, if we are aware of the concept of the word, one may expect photos of a Samurai or a warrior, since Bushido means literally “The Way of the Warrior”.
But what is life? Aren’t we warriors, every single day?
Aren’t there challenges, confrontations, conflicts, every day? We may not carry a weapon, we may not wear a katana like old Samurai did. We are the weapon in our lives.
The first “enemy” we face every day is ourselves.
Most of the conflicts created with others start with a confrontation within ourselves.
The deeper concepts both of Bushido and the well known “The Art Of War” by Sun Tzu are quite similar.
First rule and most important of them all – present in all martial arts: avoid conflict.
That’s why I admire the wisdom of the old and traditional East; they know that in a battle, nobody wins, everybody loses. It makes perfect sense – avoid conflict.
A warrior, that has been trained fully aware of Bushido, knows better, it’s instintive: avoid conflict.
A warrior that is well trained is naturally wise and knows that all it takes is one single strike to kill.
Let’s all forget those movies that portray Samurai, fighting like swordsmen in the West. That wasn’t the Samurai way.
Samurai were trained to kill in one strike.
The best Samurai used their katana once – one strike to kill. And those became almost legends.
As an admirer and follower of the Eastern ways of thinking, I can clearly see that we are all warriors. We fight. Every day.
It always starts with fighting ourselves. Before making a decision, any decision, we measure it, we struggle with it – wether we are aware of it or not.
This is as natural as life. And there’s so much to learn once we are fully aware of this.
Each word we say can be a weapon; each action we do can be a weapon. We are the weapon.
We all have heard people say “life is a fight” or something of this sort.
What if it’s not a fight? What if we make the concious decision of not fighting? What if we become Bushido itself and avoid the fight?
Seems easy to say and, one may think, not easy to do. True. Maybe we weren’t “trained” to do that. Most of us are brought up to think we need to fight to get somewhere.
Some people fight for attention – the lack of it in real life grows in SL; because of the anonimity the web allows.
Some people fight for any kind of recognition – again they lack recognition themselves, for real and they bring it stronger to SL – again the anonimity.
Some people fight for love – the lack of love in their real lives increases exponentially in SL.
These are just examples of the insecurities we all, at some point – bring to SL. They come with us, the real us.
To reach a certain goal – it can be attention, recognition, love – some people allow themselves to hurt others and they know it. That is a fight.
If our goal is just to enjoy ourselves and make other people’s lives better, in SL, there is no need for attention, for recognition and there is certainly no need to feel loved. Because we already have that within us. It cannot be found outside of us.
However, some “simple” things like living our own lives, enjoying ourselves on our own, joining a team of people that are positive in their thinking and are proactive, these don’t seem to come easily.
Here is where the fight happens: inside of us first and then thrown at others as a weapon. Without the proper training – by “training” I mean maturity, which doesn’t have necessarily to do with how old we are – there’s a fight, right there.
We just target someone and attack, because deep down, we feel threatened somehow.
The fight has started within, someone must “pay” for our unhappiness.
Sometimes we feel joy – embrace it.
Other times, we feel sadness – embrace it.
Other times, we feel anger – embrace it.
Whatever we feel, we should embrace. This is the way of the warrior.
Once we are aware of how we really feel, there is no need to fight. We are what we are, we feel what we feel – just embrace it.
Then, act with honor, respect others, face the conflict, measure it and just feel… is it worth it? Is it worth to strike that one strike to kill?
Some say the best defense is to attack. I’d say the best defense is to know yourself, to feel good about yourself, no matter how you feel. Just be. And then, don’t strike, avoid the conflict, extract yourself from that fight… cause there needs to be at least two to fight. Just leave the fight, especially when you are so aware that you can kill with one strike – the true warrior’s way. Measure your actions carefully in order not to hurt others.
An effective warrior avoids the fight, always.
Don’t fear solitude. Solitude is the way to really know yourself. Then, once you don’t fear being on your own (this is solitude, not loneliness, it’s a choice) you can connect to others without a fight.
Is the true warrior perfect?
Yes, he is. Meaning he is so aware of how much harm he can do with only one strike, he will pull back and refrain from attacking.
Awareness is self-empowerment. Be insecure, be afraid, think the unthinkable – just be fully aware of how you feel and how much harm we can do when we are in a certain mindset. Then, just ask yourself: is it worth to strike? If you are fully aware that your “oponent” can kill you with one strike, a fight is exhausting, time consuming, it unbalances us from the core.
In all matial arts and in life, all our strength is in our core. Physically, our core is around the belly button, around our hip area , down to the top of our legs. In life, the core is your essence, who you really are.
Again, I wonder: is it worth to strike? Is it worth it to fight?
The answer is up to each of us warriors out there.